As promised… here are the last two topics covered by the lecturer. It might be complicated than the actual material covered in the lecture but it covers all the necessary material.
If anyone is looking for the first three topics, they can be found in my earlier post.
Good Luck for the exam on Tuesday
Why guys don’t want to be friends with a girl who breaks up with them…
I know a girl who broke up with a guy and she told him she wanted to “still be friends.” He said, “No thanks.” She wondered why he couldn’t fall back to being just friends after they had a romantic relationship. I came up with the “McDonalds Analogy” to try and explain it in a simple way that would help all women understand this tough question.
Imagine if you went to McDonalds a lot and ordered a Big Mac Combo meal. A Big Mac, Large Fries and a Coke. You really like this meal. One day, you pull up to the drivethrough and order the Big Mac Combo meal and the girl tells you, “I’m sorry – you can have the Big Mac and the Coke, but you can’t get fries with that anymore.” You think about this for a moment, and sure – the Big Mac is the centerpiece of the meal, but McDonalds has some really good fries and you like their fries with your meal. So you say, “I’ve been able to get fries with that before, why can’t I have fries with my Big Mac combo anymore?” The girls says, “Well, I just think it is better if you only have the Big Mac and the Coke from here on out.”
At this point, a lot of guys are going to go to KFC or BK and see if they can get fries with their combo at that drivethrough window. But there are some guys who REALLY like McDonalds Big Macs and they might think, “If I keep coming here and ordering the Big Mac and Coke, maybe she’ll change her mind and give me some fries with that later.” So they will keep on getting the combo without the fries until the deal breaker happens: One day that guy is going to order the Big Mac and Coke and then he’s going to pull up a little bit to pay, and someone else is going to pull up to the drivethrough speaker and order the “Big Mac Combo” and he is going to hear the girl say, “Would you like fries with that?”
That’s why guys don’t like to be friends with a girl who breaks up with them. So girls next time please try to understand……
Ode to the Nice Guys
This rant was written for the Wharton Undergraduate Journal
This is a tribute to the nice guys. The nice guys that finish last, that never become more than friends, that endure hours of whining and bitching about what assholes guys are, while disproving the very point. This is dedicated to those guys who always provide a shoulder to lean on but restrain themselves to tentative hugs, those guys who hold open doors and give reassuring pats on the back and sit patiently outside the changing room at department stores. This is in honor of the guys that obligingly reiterate how cute/beautiful/smart/funny/sexy their female friends are at the appropriate moment, because they know most girls need that litany of support. This is in honor of the guys with open minds, with laid-back attitudes, with honest concern. This is in honor of the guys who respect a girl’s every facet, from her privacy to her theology to her clothing style.
This is for the guys who escort their drunk, bewildered female friends back from parties and never take advantage once they’re at her door, for the guys who accompany girls to bars as buffers against the rest of the creepy male population, for the guys who know a girl is fishing for compliments but give them out anyway, for the guys who always play by the rules in a game where the rules favor cheaters, for the guys who are accredited as boyfriend material but somehow don’t end up being boyfriends, for all the nice guys who are overlooked, underestimated, and unappreciated, for all the nice guys who are manipulated, misled, and unjustly abandoned, this is for you.
This is for that time she left 40 urgent messages on your cell phone, and when you called her back, she spent three hours painstakingly dissecting two sentences her boyfriend said to her over dinner. And even though you thought her boyfriend was a chump and a jerk, you assured her that it was all ok and she shouldn’t worry about it. This is for that time she interrupted the best killing spree you’d ever orchestrated in GTA3 to rant about a rumor that romantically linked her and the guy she thinks is the most repulsive person in the world. And even though you thought it was immature and you had nothing against the guy, you paused the game for two hours and helped her concoct a counter-rumor to spread around the floor. This is also for that time she didn’t have a date, so after numerous vows that there was nothing “serious” between the two of you, she dragged you to a party where you knew nobody, the beer was awful, and she flirted shamelessly with you, justifying each fit of reckless teasing by announcing to everyone: “oh, but we’re just friends!” And even though you were invited purely as a symbolic warm body for her ego, you went anyways. Because you’re nice like that.
The nice guys don’t often get credit where credit is due. And perhaps more disturbing, the nice guys don’t seem to get laid as often as they should. And I wish I could logically explain this trend, but I can’t. From what I have observed on campus and what I have learned from talking to friends at other schools and in the workplace, the only conclusion I can form is that many girls are just illogical, manipulative bitches. Many of them claim they just want to date a nice guy, but when presented with such a specimen, they say irrational, confusing things such as “oh, he’s too nice to date” or “he would be a good boyfriend but he’s not for me” or “he already puts up with so much from me, I couldn’t possibly ask him out!” or the most frustrating of all: “no, it would ruin our friendship.” Yet, they continue to lament the lack of datable men in the world, and they expect their too-nice-to-date male friends to sympathize and apologize for the men that are jerks. Sorry, guys, girls like that are beyond my ability to fathom. I can’t figure out why the connection breaks down between what they say (I want a nice guy!) and what they do (I’m going to sleep with this complete ass now!). But one thing I can do, is say that the nice-guy-finishes-last phenomenon doesn’t last forever. There are definitely many girls who grow out of that train of thought and realize they should be dating the nice guys, not taking them for granted. The tricky part is finding those girls, and even trickier, finding the ones that are single.
So, until those girls are found, I propose a toast to all the nice guys. You know who you are, and I know you’re sick of hearing yourself described as ubiquitously nice. But the truth of the matter is, the world needs your patience in the department store, your holding open of doors, your party escorting services, your propensity to be a sucker for a pretty smile. For all the crazy, inane, absurd things you tolerate, for all the situations where you are the faceless, nameless hero, my accolades, my acknowledgement, and my gratitude go out to you. You do have credibility in this society, and your well deserved vindication is coming.
Ok…. this is something that has annoyed me for some time so I am gonna take a few minutes off my mugging to blog about….
Teenagers….. wtf is wrong with this new generation of teenagers….. Specifically, when it comes to relationships and expressing their feelings. I see so many ‘in a relationship with XXXX’ or ‘its complicated’…. Actually, that I can’t handle it anymore… What annoys me is the ‘I love u Po’, ‘I miss U, <<kiss>>’ and ‘is lovin U for ever and ever’….. serious ??? I can understand this from couples who has been going out for a year or something but the third date or 2 week anniversary isn’t the most appropriate time to change your status to this. Normally this is how it goes
Stage 1: Change of status to something like ‘had fun’, ‘brilliant day’ etc… a message that hints to the other person that the time spent together on that particular day was special
Stage 2: ‘Love’ status updates frequency of change 20 hours or less…. refer above for examples
Stage 3: Photos of the couple on fb…..
Stage 4: Couple pic on fb profile pic and random friends commenting on how good both of them look together….. Yes… 16 year old nubbies…. looking good together in a photo is the secret of a looooong lasting relationship…. zzzzzz….
Stage 5: Rubber Stamp – it all goes down this way…… first…. someone feels bad…. moody status updates, followed by relationship status changed to complicated and finally ‘single’
Stage 6: clean up – all the pics of the couple on FB goes out and then go to another ‘love relationship’……..
Seriously, if you re a teenager…. dn’t waste your time on stupid useless shit like this…. Play a sport, study hard and experience new adventures (dating random women or sleeping around is NOT adventure). Being in a relationship is NOT part of what its like to be a teenager. Teenagers are meant to be carefree, irresponsible and out to conquer the world… You dn’t need a relationship to pull you down. Honestly, relationships prevent you from fully living the life of a teenager.
Remember women and all the heavy luggage that comes with them need only complicate your life when your older and mature. Word of Advice – PATIENCE, wait for the right time and the right person which is usually in your mid/late 20s….. Love is worth the loooooong restless wait – TRUST ME 🙂
The greatest sacrifices are the ones you never expect anything in return
The trouble I have seen with parents is their inherent weakness of expecting something back in return for all the time and effort they have put in raising their children. How often do you come across parents who give everything they have and expect nothing in return from their children. Its the obvious connection they have with their children – love – blinds us all.
Their expectations are concealed under the cloak of ‘best interests’ for their child. A card used by most parents in order to achieve their own expectations or dreams via their children. This may be harsh…. But in reality, children are merely an investment made by parents in order to achieve some return in the future. Majority of the parents would not even see that their expectations are really killing their child’s dreams and hopes because these parents are blinded by parental love (rationalizing their expectations as ‘best interests for their child’).
Why don’t children stand up and say ‘No’? It is merely social norms at work. Children are constantly made to feel guilty of their parents’ sacrifices. Hence, ‘I Owe Them’ is always at the back of their head…. preventing most of them from going against their parents’ expectations. Parents celebrate when their children excel…. they are first to tell their neighbors… when their child fails….. I rarely hear Parents telling their neighbors how their drug addict son is doing time in prison or their O/L failed daughter is working as a prostitute. One may say its because it makes their children look bad…. yeah but that is taking a parent’s view point on what is good and what is bad…. what if their son enjoys doing drugs and their daughter wanted to be a prostitute. Why can’t parents be happy with what their children have become…. Just because mom gave up her dream on being an air stewardess to raise her 2 children and dad couldn’t get his lamborghini since he had to save for their children’s college education does mean their daughter must be air stewardess and their son a lawyer….