Difference b/w Them & Us

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We have got into this argument at some stage in our lives. Are women or men more complicated ? Are women from venus and Men from Mars ?

Personally, I think that men are simple creature who have wholly different approach to life and everything it brings as compared to women. Below are some examples from real life:

Shopping

The main difference is that with women its always a matter of degree and there no such thing as an absolute choice. Women understand and fully appreciate clothes and color. For them, there is a trivial yet distinct difference between white and off-white or boot-cut and straight fit.

For men, everything is in absolute terms, green, pink, yellow, jeans, shirt, T-shirt etc. All men really care is if a white shirt goes with a purple tie and not if a white shirt goes with a purplish tie containing spots or strips.

This makes women much more complicated in this area and a living nightmare to their boyfriend or husband when they want to get something special on a special occasion.

Expression

Women express everything is paragraphs. Men do in sentences. Fact: On average, it has been estimated that men speak 12,500 words in a given day and women speak about 25,500 words in a day

Women like to focus their attention not only on the facts but their subjective perception of the facts as they were unveiled. Hence, Women tend to communicate more effectively than men, focusing on how to create a solution that works for a group (family or work), talking through issues, and utilizes non-verbal cues such as tone, emotion, and empathy.

Whereas men tend to be more task-oriented, less talkative, and more isolated. Furthermore, Men have a more difficult time understanding emotions that are not explicitly verbalized, while women tend to intuit emotions and emotional cues. These differences explain why men-men relationships are alot less complicated than women-women relationship.

A misunderstanding between a men-men relationship can only arise in two circumstances; violation of article 2 or article 84. Whereas, with women everyday is constant battle because to enter the realm of subjective perceptions is to enter murky waters where no one is certain what lies ahead.

Global Or Compartmental

Based on an article http://www.tellinitlikeitis.net/2008/01/why-are-women-so-strange-and-men-so-weird.html, Women are global and Men Compartmental

Women can try asking their partner to pick something at the grocery or run an errand after his work. Only for him to return home empty-handed or unfinished. That’s because he was in the “work”compartment, focusing exclusively on getting the job done that moment, where nothing else exists but his work.

Have you ever tried to talk to your husband or partner about something you felt was important while he is focusing his attention on the football game? Doesn’t work out too well, does it? This is because Men work in blocks. For example: When Men leave to work they close their ‘home’ block and open their ‘work’ block and focus 100% leaving behind all else.

Men have you ever gotten into a disagreement with your wife or girlfriend about something, and she brings up stuff that happened months ago?You likely stood there looking at her with the “deer in the headlights” sort of look wondering, What in the world does THAT have anything to do with THIS?

That’s because she’s thinking globally, connecting and intertwining details and data as they relate to one another. With Women everything is connected and everything has some meaning. Women are able to see the big picture every single time whereas Men only see facts in abstract with no real connection between them.

Never Yes/No

Women rarely use the ‘Yes or No’ when asked a question to mean exactly what those words are intended to express . On countless times Men ask Women (usually after an argument) “Are you(we) ok?” to which says “I(we) am fine” or “Yes”.

This is because women have been taught since childhood to use “hint language” when asking for something she wants or needs. A woman may say, “Honey, wouldn’t be nice to go see a movie tonight”?, when she really means “I want to go see a movie tonight”. Unfortunately, men often do not get the hint. This is due to the fact that “hint language” is not a part of a man’s language style, since men tend to take language very literally, focusing on the content of the message instead of hidden meanings. And by saying ‘No’ to her proposition she would just get the impression that her partner does not care about what she wants or needs.

Man measure by his ego

Generally, men are insecure about their social standing. Their ego and social recognition is an vital aspect for their well-being. Hence, in certain decisions or circumstances, men are more controlling or demanding than others. For example: being the bread winner, family financial planner, deciding on the family car etc. In these areas, Men want to be the sole individual making the decisions because this is the only way his ego and self-esteem can be satisfied.

Women are more social creature who like team or group decision making. Hence, women like to participate in the decision making and contribute her comments and ideas on these decisions. The role of ego and social recognition is less prevalent in women as compared to men.

Hence, why Women can never understand why Men love cars and sports. For Men, these two areas are iconic for power and social fame.

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