Monthly Archives: December 2009

7 Things on My Mind


1. Cos you are by my side (Bewildered)

After much deduction, I have realized that when it comes to me; having a women who loves me by my side plays an immensely dangerous role in my life triumphs. I am pleasantly surprised how much my self-centered achievements is largely dependent on been open and making myself vulnerable to someone else.

2. Certain friendships are never meant to be (Confused)

Long distance relationships are hard; whether we are talking about love or just mere friendship. At least when it comes to love there is that yearning moment when each other met and passionately connect physically. With long distance friendships it is just different which makes maintaining one harder for some while easier for others. For me, its harder; maybe I expect too much or maybe I am just confused; But I do know its worth trying

3. New house yet not home (Disoriented)

We moved from Sixth Avenue to Choa Chu Khang. Well, CCK is only my temp home before I move to NUS accommodation. My stuff is everywhere; some packed others lost with all the moving. Plus, sleeping on the floor is never pleasant so counting the days before I can finally settle down.

4. Money vs. “A Calling” (Unsure)

The hardest thing is to never let money side track you from following your dream. A 10k salary for some MNC legal department maybe the price tag for your soul; saying “No” becomes harder and harder as you observe how much happiness a fat pay cheque brings. But, I will hold on to that speck of hope that life is bigger than a house, sports car and trophy wife.

5. Sadness begins when Happiness ends (Lost)

From 7 times a week to 1 once a month; religion has always been a strong foundational block in my upbringing. I was never indoctrinated but rather I learned and as my curiosity grew so did my faith. Now, I feel so distant so lost and hunger for that love that once grew inside. I just need to go home and find my way once again.

6. Looks triumph all in the card deck of life (Perplexed)

Girls Girls Girls; its hard I know but there is no such thing as “only personality matters”. Men first criteria for choosing a female partner is external beauty and internal beauty is just second prize; runners up. Think of it as a “beauty contest”; external beauty is like the national or local beauty pageant where only the winners can enter the worldwide beauty pageant where only at this stage internal beauty provides the winning edge.

7. Guardian Angel or Luck (Unclear)

Sometimes I wonder why I am this fortunate when it comes certain aspects of life (which to me) really matters. Things could have gone horribly wrong and I could have be in Sri Lankan married to my high school sweet heart working at a local bank calling centre earning just enough to feed my wife and two children. But; things took drastic twists and turns which has brought me here and honestly sitting down on this mattress on the floor listening to “that playlist” I wouldnt have life any other way. Maybe, there is “someone” looking after me or maybe I am just plain lucky. But, I do know one thing; I am grateful for everything life has thrown at me for the last 23 years

Avatar Movie 2009


A group of nature-worshipping aliens triumph over the greedy, evil human corporations that want to destroy their planet. The aliens eventually send the humans back to a dying earth to die. How marvelous!

It took 12 years of “planning”, 350 million dollar budget and a whole new camera to come up with by far one of the best movies I have seen in my life.

As a critic, the plot itself is nothing unique. We have all seen movies where a single man takes the side of another species to defeat his own kind and restore peace. Of course, this movie provides no exception to this classic plot.

Then, what makes this movie spectacular ?Simply put by this article; “super-sleek new-tech 3D, and it is breathlessly reported to have taken the medium of cinema to the next level”

Plot synopsis:

Avatar” takes place in 2154 on the planet Pandora, in “a time of great sorrow.” Earth, ecologically, is kaput. The story’s protagonist, Jake Sully (Sam Worthington), is a former Marine who was wounded in combat on Earth and paralyzed from the waist down. He is selected to participate as replacement of his twin brother (who dies) in the Avatar program , which will enable him to walk again.

Jake travels to Pandora, a lush jungle-covered extraterrestrial moon filled with incredible life forms, some beautiful, many terrifying. A mineral known as “unobtainium” lies beneath the sacred lands of the planet’s native people.

Pandora is also home to the Navi, a sentient humanoid race that is physically stronger than humans, although considered primitive. Standing three meters tall, with tails and sparkling blue skin, the Navi live in harmony with their unspoiled world.

As humans encroach deeper into Pandora’s forests in search of valuable minerals- worth 20 million a kilo!, the Navi unleash formidable warrior abilities to defend their threatened existence. Of course, bows and arrows are no match to heavy armor and machine guns or rockets. And Navi are facing a losing battle.

Steps in Jake, who has unwittingly been recruited to become part of this experiment. Since humans are unable to breathe the air on Pandora, they have created genetically-bred human-Navi hybrids known as “Avatars” . The Avatars are living, breathing bodies that are controlled by a human “driver” through a technology that links the driver’s mind to the Avatar body.

On Pandora, through his Avatar body, Jake can walk . He is sent deep into Pandora’s jungles as a scout for the soldiers who will follow, and encounters many of Pandora’s beauties and dangers. These encounters are by far the best part of the movie; the creativity of the plants and animals and the graphical animation is breath-taking.

He also meets a young Navi female, Neytiri, whose beauty is matched only by her ferocity in battle. Over time, Jake integrates himself into Neytiri’s clan, and begins to fall in love with her. As a result, Jake finds himself caught between the military-industrial forces of Earth, and the Navi, forcing him to choose sides in an epic battle that will decide the fate of an entire world. The movie ends with the humans losing and Jack and his avatar finally united as one forever.

On Settling


Firstly; A general comment about Internet Blogging. I must apologize to those bloggers who send me mails informing that certain content in my blog has been covered specifically or generally in their own blog posts. I try to do my due diligence before I do most posts  and acknowledge any original content. However, with the vast content on every topic under the sun on the Internet, it must be conceded that its impossible for me with the limited resources and time to be 100% thorough. Hence, any claim by bloggers in respect of any kind of originality and authenticity have and will be entertained upon proof.

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I always found it strange that, for most people, the sliding scale of acceptance always stop at the same two points.

Their careers and love lives.

You will probably at one point in your life think that she is too good for you to go after.  That this job sounds like it’s life sucking, but it’ll pay the bills.  That you can’t leave her because you’ve been together for so long.  And of course, leaving her now will just mean all those years spent together were a waste, so the logical thing to do is waste more years! (Please detect the hint of sarcasm there.)

When was the last time you walked into a barber shop and demanded the worst possible haircut you can get?

Have you ever eaten at a terrible restaurant and proceeded to go back there everyday to experience the same tasteless food?

Why are we so picky when it comes to the little things in life yet stop that sliding scale of acceptance at the most important issues?

We ask Starbucks employees to remake a drink three times because it tastes funny and the temperature is slightly off, but will allow ourselves to be overworked and underloved.

It’s time to move that sliding scale.

House Husband


A year ago, life was different and holidays was most welcomed if not too anxiously. This time around its different. Different does not necessary mean in a bad way but rather in an unexpected way. Living 45 minutes from “civilization” i.e. my campus brings its benefits as well as  complications. And one of these complications, I have developed househusband syndrome.

Househusband syndrome

What is Househusband Syndrome?

  • The desire and intent to stay at home; traditionally this was a man married to an university graduate wife who had skills equal to superior to his. His roles were similar to what women had to endure before the feminist movement. However, there are two main differences; firstly this syndrome is developed by choice and secondly, it is not necessarily a long term decision (over 40% of diagnosed cases last for less than 10 years). The concept of “househusband” has morphed with the changing times and does not necessarily apply to opposite sex couples or even to married couples.


  • A desire to maintain a well developed physique as to remain incredibly physically attractive. 19 Inch Biceps and 6 pack seems to all that matter
  • Enjoy to cook leisurely; this skill is not used for seductive purposes but rather for purely self-satisfactory ends
  • Neighborhood Gossip or just Gossip as a notion captivates you and the first thing that you ask when meeting someone is “So what’s new?”
  • Wake up at 7am as if its natural given and cleaning after “certain” people becomes obligation rather than a courtesy.
  • Your life seems to rotate around certain TV Shows and schedules are meticulously designed around them.


  • So, After much thought I think I have caught this syndrome. After exams, all I seem to do is cook, clean and cook and the only real excitement is watching Tv shows and “accidentally” running into neighbors. Seriously, need a change in life style.

To Forgive


To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you

Philip Yancey

The act of forgiveness is by far the toughest yet the most profound actions we can make. It requires nerve, submission and a small chunk of our ever-protected ego. However, to live a truly blissful life, we must learn to forgive unconditionally.

Certainly we all have been subject to extreme hurt throughout our life journey. We have been taken advantage of,  ridiculed, and had our good hearts  put to the test, and because of this we often find it difficult to forgive.

We scrutinize our past experiences and gauge our future encounters. Judging those relationships with the same tainted yardstick. This not only leads to more resentment but adds more misery to ourselves. Over the years  I unfortunately  developed  a great deal of resentment towards many people I loved. I never expressed such emotions but rather let it build up inside of me trying desperately to route these emotions towards positive motivational responses. This has worked for me this far but now I must confront these emotions and stamp them with “forgiveness”. Worst part is that I know its not for me but rather because someone else yens for it.