Cos We All Aint Black & White


In most countries, it’s still taboo. While others, everyone is getting used to it. Visionaries laud it as the making of a multi-ethnic, golden race that will bring peace to the planet. Some of my closest friends have done it and everybody gossips about it; mixed race marriages.

By all estimates, it will only increase. Slowly and awkwardly society is facing it and finding it’s a lot healthier to talk about it and positively adjust to it when it happens, rather than hide it, fight it or worse ignore it.

It raises an issue of mixed emotions, mixed philosophies and mixed cultures. Should a Hindu date a Muslim? Should Christians and Hindus marry? What religion would a child be if the parents were Hindu and Jewish respectively? We all like to think of ourselves as liberal people and dismiss the issue of interreligious marriage by saying, “If they love each other, that’s all that matters. As long as they are happy, we are happy.” However, deep down inside, do we really feel that way? How does one truly feel about inter-religious relationships and marriages? Does “love make the world go ’round,” or does religion, tradition and society?

How compatible am I to someone who believes that God has asked to not eat meat, be a virgin or adhere to a specific dress code. Or who enjoy sacrificing goats and decorating trees. I may love her but will that love grow as our faults are revealed; our polarized opinions surface and relatives/family mingle. Marriage, a life long relationship in itself is barely workable. Add culture and religion as complexities and it only gets harder. Some of us like to try new things and that experience is pleasantly welcomed. But, marriage is not an “experience” its a life choice and there is no real way out to try something else new. Liking Indian food or Chinese Weddings is not a reason to date a Indian or Chinese; as outsiders we can never fully appreciate the inner workings of these religions or traditions and thinking we can adjust no matter what.

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