Monthly Archives: June 2010

A preference or Just Racism

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When it comes to dating, whether online or offline, people will always have a preference. All online dating sites have done is give people the option of selecting preferred race so that they can be able to match like-minded individuals. I don’t think their aim is to make people come off as racist by merely stating the racial preference of sought mates. We all have preferences. Should we claim people are racist just because they prefer particular races? Should we blame these individuals when we face rejection from others for being ‘what they weren’t expecting?’ So where is one supposed to draw the line? How do we divorce mere preference from prejudice? Or are they just the same?

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Blame it on the Weatherman

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Too often we give children answers to remember rather than problems to solve.

~Roger Lewin

There are two ways in doing this: (1) tell them what is right and what is wrong, or (2) provide the strong foundations of logically deduction. We classify the first option as the precautious approach while the latter is the faith based approach. Let me put it this way: The hardest part of raising a child is teaching them to ride bicycles.  A shaky child on a bicycle for the first time needs both support and freedom. If you hold on to the bicycle the whole time, he will eventually believe he can actually ride; only to be proven wrong at some point when either you finally let go or he/she screams for “some space”. Of course, if you never support him, he will keep on falling till he gives up on riding.

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Harder Choices are Easier to Make

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Life is the sum of all your choices.  ~Albert Camus

We are all faced with hard-nearly impossible decisions, choices that can rattle our masterfully planned out life. Then, we must think, analyze and evaluate the relevant facts before us and make an informed choice. The importance of these choices are only self-evident; deciding which university to attend and accordingly which career path to follow, deciding on whom to spend the rest of your life with, the school to send your children to etc. These choices sculpture your life along with that of your loved ones. We know the repercussions of these choices all too well, reading them in advice columns, best seller books or just as words of guidance from the experienced.

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The Elusive Singaporean Girl

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Sure God created man before woman.  But then you always make a rough draft before the final masterpiece

Expectations and standards; to measure everything in life. To ran around placing a value and assigning it an importance. Yet, do we wonder from where we get these “numerical” values or subjective standards ? Maybe, it our upbringing, social circle, religion or some other factor. What matters is that we are all guilty of it.

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A Simple Kind of Life

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The person i was, the things i used to do, the mistakes and the mean things i said… they all haunt me now. i used to sneak around, to fool trust, to have secrets from the one i loved… i have my part of the blame for all that happened and now i’m paying for it in full. i can’t trust people and maybe the problem isn’t totally because of others, some of it is deep inside my brain. i think that everybody’s mean, that they all want to hurt me and disappoint my expectations… all of this when i’m finally happy, when i changed the person i used to be… now… the joke’s on me

I’m so ashamed, I’ve been so mean
I don’t know how it got to this point
I always was the one with all the love
You came along, I’m hunting you down

Like a sick domestic abuser looking for a fight
And all I wanted was the simple things
A simple kind of life

If we met tomorrow for the very first time
Would it start all over again?
Would I try to make you mine?