Monthly Archives: September 2010

What Frightens Me The Most

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The answer is abit too simple: Not marrying the right person.

Wah, this post is quite random but with all the marriages going on among my social group of friends it got me thinking.

Fear is bearable when you can contemplate or perceive what it is like. We all know what it feels like to get burned. So, does a person get frighten when he/she is asked to ran into a burning building ? For me, no – if you can understand the consequences of an action, making the decision to go through with it becomes easier and less dreadful (If you still are then it is just a matter of confidence or courage rather than fear)

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Self-Regulation

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Self-regulation refers to our ability to override and alter our responses. Regulation means change, especially change to bring our behavior into line with some standard such as an ideal or goal. We attempt to constrain unwanted urges in order to gain control of the incipient response. But why fight this urge?  What benefit do we get from regulating ourselves?  Why do we change our behavior so as to follow rules, match ideals, or pursue goals?  Maybe to feel more socially acceptable or achieve some goal or reach a destination. Whatever the reason might be, this post is just trying to highlight what I believe are crucial ingredients to effectively self-regulate oneself.

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An Unconscious Racist

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When you get some time, I would recommend everyone to try the several Implicit Association Tests (IAT) available at www.implicit.harvard.edu. Including my favorite the Race IAT. I’ve taken the Race IAT on many occasions, and the result always leaves me feeling a bit creepy. At the beginning of the test, you are asked what your attitudes toward blacks and white are, I answered like most average people, that I think of the races as equal. Then comes the test, a series of pictures of faces flash on the screen and you are required to categorize them. Finally, they give you a result like “moderate automatic preference for whites or “moderate automatic preference for blacks”.

So if you do get one of those results, does it mean you are a racist? I would say not exactly.

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Better At It Than You

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Moral dilemmas are becoming more and more prominent in my life. Here is another one;

Imagine:

You work for a boss in a big MNC. Your boss does a satisfactory job at work. But you know that if you can do your boss’ job better than him then there is no harm in competing for his job, right ? The answer may seem simple unless:

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