A girl’s perspective of forgiveness in love. Courtesy of whygodmadegirls:
For me, the most difficult expression of love is forgiveness. They say love is a commitment, it’s waking up everyday committing yourself to loving that one person you chose. It’s not that hard, I think. It’s not that hard to love someone you have always loved. But loving someone who has hurt you? Who seeks your forgiveness (or not) and wants you to love them back again? That’s hard for me. It’s a daily commitment for me, till I can forget, to look at you everyday and remember all the good things that you have done and are doing. It’s finding the person I once loved inside the person that hurt me. It’s looking at the scars you have given me and trying to be thankful there aren’t more. It’s looking at how you are trying or how I just need to get over the hurt because I’m just dragging myself into a downward spiral. It’s not punishing you anymore.
So here I am, saying I forgive you. I forgive you for hurting me intentionally and saying you love me at the same time. I forgive you for all the wrong things you did then. And I hope in my forgiveness, you see my love.
A guy’s perspective of forgiveness in love. Courtesy of Henry Rollins:
You forgave me in a dream the other night. The more you told me it was alright, the worse I felt. I know that you were only doing it because you knew I couldnt possibly hurt you more than I already had. I could see what forgiving me was doing to you. I know that you think I’m too stupid to figure it all out. When you forgave me, you knew that it was finally over. The pain would leave me, I would forget you and you would never see me again except in a dream. It is sad that the things that we saw in each other are no longer there. It is a shame that we tore each other apart looking for things that we needed desperately but could never find. It is tragic that we only wanted to give each other but only stole from ourselves and blamed each other for the emptiness in our lives. I see you differently now. I no longer fear you. It took years to see you for what you really are.