Life is a comedy to those who think, a tragedy to those who feel.
― Jean Racine
Life’s a joke. Seriously. Ok, what I meant to say is that life loves to play practical jokes. Life is by far my favourite comedian. You never know when the punchline is. To me, the following have been life’s best jokes:-
There used to be a time when I mixed up soul mate with “first” mate. Life has taught me that every relationship, love or otherwise, are not meant to succeed. Some work, some don’t. It is heart break that lets you learn about yourself and learn to manage your expectations of others.
You know that saying “If you love someone let it free if it comes back it’s meant to be”. Life has taught me that it’s bullshit. If there is one thing I learnt is that you must fight for what you want. Life comes with no guarantees, no time outs, no second chances. Well, maybe second chances but you never know when you’ll get one.
What is painful is to love someone and never find the courage to let that person know how you feel. I am guilty of this too. It’s true that we don’t know what we’ve got until we lose it, but life has taught me that it’s also true that we don’t know what we’ve been missing until it arrives. Take a chance, speak to her and trust me you will end up wondering how on earth you lived so long without that someone.
Remember to be grateful for what you have. We are a generation born with the idea of “entitlements”. We believe we are entitled to food, education and paying jobs. We must be able to purchase a car and apartment / condo when we want. These are our entitlements. Stop. Life taught me to appreciate what we have. We are all blessed to have the lives we live, which we must learn to understand is perfect. We must stop striving for perfection and learn to appreciate the perfection around us.
Life taught me that regret i misery’s greatest weapon and sadness’ strongest ally. End of day, you just have to live life to the fullest, tell someone what they mean to you, speak out and remember to listen, hold her hand, cry your heart out, stay up late and watch her sleep, laugh too much, take too many pictures, love like you’ve never been hurt, forgive freely and smile until your face hurts.
Life has taught me that we should not go for looks, they can deceive. Don’t go for wealth, even that fades away. Go for someone who makes you smile because it takes only a smile to make a dark day seem bright. You know you made the right choice when you open your eyes in the morning and the first thing you see are those eyes and that gentle smile. You feel safe. It is in that moment you get the punchline!